Master your Destiny:
How to Change Bad Habits and Enjoy the Process
by Roger Haeske
Here are some extremely powerful techniques to help you make lasting changes in your life. They work like computer programming for your brain. The key is to reinforce your changes constantly in your thoughts until they become habits. You see, humans are constantly programming themselves without being aware of it. The thoughts you think and ideas you generate are the keys to your destiny. Ideas help you overcome obstacles. All actions start in thought and ideas. If you have the proper ideas they’ll inspire you to take action.
You should constantly picture, feel and hear your ideal state. In our culture most people tend to focus on what is going wrong in their lives or what they don’t want. The problem is that the mind gets what it focuses on. So you should always focus on what you want and not on what you don’t want. This principle is incredibly important. I use it in my peak performance consultations for athletes as well as for improving my own life. When I realized this principle for myself, my tennis game immediately improved 20%. All the shots I was missing before and struggling to mentally figure out how to do, started coming naturally. By improper focus I was blocking my own potential. In my opinion, most people are unaware of their full potential and have many mental blocks that severely limit their chances at success.
Say you want to stop smoking. Simply visualize how healthy you are as you go through your life day by day breathing in only pure, fresh air. The key is to think these thoughts often, especially when you crave cigarettes. This all goes back to making the future state so desirable that you don’t want to go back to your old habits.
A technique to help with controlling your thoughts is to do a mental fast one day per week. This mental fast will change you and make you more disciplined in thought and therefore you’ll be much better able to change. You should set aside a Friday or whatever day of the week is best for you and dedicate that day to the fast. That whole day you spend visualizing and thinking about your ideal state. Whenever your mind is free to think any thoughts you want, that is the time to picture your desired result. I’ve done this technique for many years and let me tell you it really works.
I remember the first time I did a mental fast about 13 years ago. I decided to think only positive and non-judgmental thoughts. I mentally threw any negative thoughts into a trash can. It was really lots of fun because it was the first time I actively tried to control my thoughts. The whole world took on a new perception. I noticed how often I thought negatively. The negative thoughts kept on popping up. All I did was throw them in a mental trash can. By the end of the day I was so positive and happy that I thought I would burst with joy. The repeated use of the one-day mental fast technique will change the structure of your mind and of your thoughts. This one technique alone will help you prove to yourself that you are self-disciplined. It is an ancient technique used in many spiritual traditions. I’ve written an article that describes the many benefits of doing a continuous mental fast. The technique is called, practicing the presence of god. This is one of the Ultimate Techniques if you want to live the life of a Superbeing.
A great way to make your mental fast really motivating is to visualize a mentor or role model of a person who already has the desired attributes you want. In your imagination, bring this person with you in all your activities. Your mentor will be a shining example of how you should act and go about your business. You can ask your mentor to help you out and give you the strength you need to be the new you. You’d be amazed at how helpful this technique is in helping you to change habits.
I’ve done this on numerous occasions. When I work out, for instance, I take Arnold Schwarzeneggar or Jack Lalane along with me. They give me advice mentally. It really feels like they are there with me. I actually get happy just by visualizing them because they are positive role models for me. Also it’s a great way to imagine your desired state by looking at these prime examples of disciplined workouts.
Another technique of vital importance in helping you learn to change is the daily practice of a spiritual exercise. By setting aside time to do a daily spiritual exercise you will experience many benefits. You’ll start experiencing a natural high almost instantly once you have been doing the exercises for a while. You’ll also start tuning into your inner guidance. This will give you insights into how to better change yourself. Also while doing these spiritual exercises you’ll expand your creativity as well as improve your ability to visualize. Spiritual exercises are like physical exercises for the body but instead you are exercising your true self, the highest you.
There are two basic techniques I’ll give you here. The first is the ancient technique of using sound or a mantra to get you into a deep meditative and hypnotic like state. Once you get into this state you can use visualization as well as positive affirmations and they will be more effective than when you try to do them in your waking consciousness.
The mantra exercise is quite simple and devastatingly effective. You find a regular time to do this exercise every day. The best times are either right after you wake up or just before going to sleep. Then you get into a chair and sit upright. The reason you do this as opposed to lying down is so that you are less likely to fall asleep. Then you close your eyes and take 5 very slow deep breaths in through your nose and out through your nose. Then its time to chant your mantra or special word. You should choose a word that will attune you to your higher self or god. Here are some choices, Hu, Om, Aum, Love, God, or the name of God in your religion, or the name of a saint like Jesus or Buddha etc. You may already have a mantra of your own and you can use that. Or you can ask for inner guidance and eventually you will be guided to a word that is right for you. Over the last 13 years there have been several instances where I’ve been inwardly given specific words to chant to help with my spiritual unfoldment.
Now you start chanting your mantra. You breathe in and on the outgoing breath you chant out loud or in your mind the word. Chanting the mantra really helps to keep your thoughts from wandering. With continued practice your mind will become one-pointed and you wouldn’t have those constant nagging thoughts roaming about uncontrollably in your mind. This will help your concentration ability in your daily activities. You chant the mantra for at least 10 minutes. You can do it more or less. The longer you do it the more profound the results and the deeper the state. You may want to try to count the number of times you chant the word. You can start with a low number like say chanting the word HU (An ancient name for God) 12 times. The key is to keep chanting until you get into a deep, trance like state.
Once you feel you’re in deep, you can continue chanting or visualize your ideal state. Use all of your senses, this helps to make it more real to you. Simply see yourself in beautiful surroundings as the new person you want to be. Picture someone offering you cigarettes and you looking at them as if they were crazy. You actually have a repulsion to your old addiction. You can’t even imagine why anyone would smoke. That’s how I feel about drinking soda, a habit I gave up long ago. These visualizations will ingrain in your subconscious and help to make your changes permanent.
The second technique is simply using visualization without any mantra. A good way to start is to visualize a golden light emanating inside of you and through you. Everywhere you look are beautiful lights of various hues. Colors so bright that you would be blinded if you looked with your physical eyes. You can put yourself into any paradisiacal setting you like. Many people like having their own inner sanctuary that they can visit again and again.
You can go to a beautiful garden, with all sorts of blooming flowers with all the associated scents. You can have a special bench where you meet with your mentor and discuss any problems you may be having. You could have horses there or any mystical creature you’d like, a unicorn for instance. You could make it like Superman’s crystal palace in the North Pole. But realize that in your imagination, this is real. These structures that you create in your mind, actually exist on the higher planes of reality. Imagination is reality on the other side of life. This exercise should be anywhere from 10 minutes to a half-hour. It is another technique that will help you make permanent the changes you want to make.